{"id":2430,"date":"2023-01-24T17:10:08","date_gmt":"2023-01-24T17:10:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/?p=2430"},"modified":"2023-01-25T18:41:49","modified_gmt":"2023-01-25T18:41:49","slug":"singura-tradare-e-cea-fata-de-propria-persoana","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/singura-tradare-e-cea-fata-de-propria-persoana\/","title":{"rendered":"Singura tr\u0103dare e cea fa\u021b\u0103 de propria persoan\u0103"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xdj266r x126k92a\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>M-a sunat o prieten\u0103 zilele trecute. Era sup\u0103rat\u0103 c\u0103 fusese p\u0103r\u0103sit\u0103 de prietenul ei. Erau \u00eempreun\u0103 de mai mul\u021bi ani \u0219i urmau s\u0103 se c\u0103s\u0103toreasc\u0103. Stabiliser\u0103 data nun\u021bii, \u00eens\u0103 el \u0219i-a g\u0103sit \u00eentre timp pe altcineva \u0219i a plecat. I se p\u0103rea nedrept, fiindc\u0103 investise \u00een rela\u021bia ei. I-am spus c\u0103-mi pare r\u0103u, \u0219tiind c\u0103 \u0219i-a dorit ca visul ei s\u0103 continue. Dar faptul c\u0103 el \u0219i-a g\u0103sit pe altcineva \u0219i, \u00een cele din urm\u0103 a plecat e o dovad\u0103 c\u0103 nu era pentru ea \u0219i nu avea de ce s\u0103 regrete plecarea lui. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, nu trebuia s\u0103 fie prea surprins\u0103, fiindc\u0103 cu siguran\u021b\u0103 au existat semne \u00eenainte, doar c\u0103 le-a ignorat, g\u00e2ndindu-se c\u0103 poate se-\u00een\u0219eal\u0103. O privire, un gest, o ezitare, transformate cu timpul \u00een indiferen\u021b\u0103. \u00cemprejur\u0103rile exterioare, cum ar fi stabilirea datei nun\u021bii ori coabitarea \u0219i chiar c\u0103s\u0103toria \u00een sine, nu sunt motive, din punctul meu de vedere care s\u0103 justifice r\u0103m\u00e2nerea \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie atunci c\u00e2nd unul dintre parteneri \u00eent\u00e2lne\u0219te pe altcineva. Cineva care crede c\u0103 i se potrive\u0219te mai bine, care-l \u00eempline\u0219te cu adev\u0103rat \u0219i care face pa\u0219i concre\u021bi spre el sau spre ea, investind \u00een rela\u021bie \u00een aceea\u0219i m\u0103sur\u0103, cu o constan\u021b\u0103 care s\u0103 confere certitudinea c\u0103 nu e doar o tr\u0103ire de moment. Asta e via\u021ba. Imprevizibil\u0103.<br \/>\nNu mi s-a p\u0103rut c\u0103 fostul ei prieten a procedat gre\u0219it. Poate nu a ales bine momentul \u00een care i-a spus c\u0103 pleac\u0103, poate trebuia s\u0103-i spun\u0103 din timp, oricum \u0219i oric\u00e2nd i-ar fi spus, tot ar fi durut. Important e c\u0103 a procedat bine asum\u00e2ndu-\u0219i faptul c\u0103 nu mai putea r\u0103m\u00e2ne \u00eentr-o rela\u021bie care nu-l \u00eemplinea. Nu mi se pare o tr\u0103dare s\u0103-\u021bi urmezi inima, ci mi se pare tr\u0103dare atunci c\u00e2nd nu o faci. Singura tr\u0103dare e cea fa\u021b\u0103 de propria persoan\u0103, c\u00e2nd faci altceva de c\u00e2t sim\u021bi cu adev\u0103rat, indiferent de motivele care te \u021bin pe loc, \u00eempiedic\u00e2ndu-te s\u0103 fii tu \u00eensu\u021bi. Nu m\u0103 refer la impulsul de moment care te atrage spre o anumit\u0103 persoan\u0103, ci la acea sim\u021bire care te \u00eempinge spre cineva anume, a c\u0103rui prezen\u021b\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi aduce lini\u0219te \u0219i sentimentul c\u0103 via\u021ba e frumoas\u0103 \u0219i merit\u0103 tr\u0103it\u0103.<br \/>\nPoate a venit vremea s\u0103 \u00eenlocuim promisiunea nerealist\u0103 &#8220;te voi iubi toat\u0103 via\u021ba&#8221; cu con\u0219tientizarea faptului c\u0103 azi iubim o anumit\u0103 persoan\u0103, c\u0103reia \u00eei oferim ce avem mai bun, \u0219i, iubind-o azi, cel mai probabil, o vom iubi \u0219i m\u00e2ine. Promisiunile nerealiste duc la a\u0219tept\u0103ri nerealiste \u0219i, \u00een cele din urm\u0103 la decep\u021bii. Stabilitatea real\u0103 e cea creat\u0103 de \u00eemp\u0103rt\u0103\u0219irea sentimentelor de c\u0103tre cel\u0103lalt, singura ce poate construi ceva trainic \u00eentre dou\u0103 suflete. Orice alte conjuncturi exterioare legate de planific\u0103ri \u0219i investi\u021bii materiale sunt lipsite de relevan\u021b\u0103 pe termen lung, devenind \u00eenchisori ce men\u021bin sufletele captive \u00eentr-o via\u021b\u0103 lipsit\u0103 de suflu, \u00een care singura satisfac\u021bie e stabilitatea material\u0103.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2432,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[25],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2430","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-jurnal-virtual"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2430","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2430"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2430\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2536,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2430\/revisions\/2536"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2432"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2430"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2430"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2430"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}