{"id":2433,"date":"2023-01-24T17:15:33","date_gmt":"2023-01-24T17:15:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/?p=2433"},"modified":"2023-01-25T18:37:39","modified_gmt":"2023-01-25T18:37:39","slug":"a-ti-trai-visele-pe-cont-propriu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/a-ti-trai-visele-pe-cont-propriu\/","title":{"rendered":"A-\u021bi tr\u0103i visele pe cont propriu"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xdj266r x126k92a\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Marele meu noroc e acela c\u0103 n-am avut o rela\u021bie prea str\u00e2ns\u0103 cu p\u0103rin\u021bii, \u00eentr-at\u00e2t c\u00e2t s\u0103-mi influen\u021beze prea mult deciziile \u00een via\u021b\u0103. Care s\u0103-mi spun\u0103 c\u00e2t de minunat\u0103 eram \u00een raport cu ceilal\u021bi, \u00eendep\u0103rt\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 astfel de lume. Mare parte din familii, \u00een special cele \u00een care p\u0103rin\u021bii au o anumit\u0103 pozi\u021bie social\u0103, \u00ee\u0219i dep\u0103\u0219esc cu mult rolul pe care ar trebui s\u0103-l aib\u0103, acela de a cre\u0219te \u0219i educa un copil, d\u00e2ndu-i apoi drumul \u00een via\u021b\u0103, fiindc\u0103 e via\u021ba lui, nu a lor. Vorba unei fiin\u021be dragi mie &#8211; dac\u0103 nu ai educat pe cineva p\u00e2n\u0103 la 16 ani, degeaba o mai faci, iar dac\u0103 l-ai educat, se va descurca singur, neav\u00e2nd neap\u0103rat\u0103 nevoie de sfaturile tale. Bine\u00een\u021beles c\u0103 va gre\u0219i adesea, va da cu capul ori de c\u00e2te ori este cazul, dar \u00ee\u0219i va tr\u0103i via\u021ba, nu va fi o copie a sfaturilor \u0219i a liniilor trasate de adul\u021bii care, la r\u00e2ndul lor nu au tr\u0103it.<br \/>\nCine tr\u0103ie\u0219te cu adev\u0103rat, nu simte nevoia s\u0103 dea sfaturi, \u0219tiind c\u0103 o experien\u021b\u0103 de via\u021b\u0103 e valoroas\u0103 \u0219i dac\u0103 cineva a ajuns s-o tr\u0103iasc\u0103 \u00eei era necesar\u0103. Una e s\u0103 \u0219tii ce trebuie s\u0103 faci \u0219i alta e s\u0103 integrezi cuno\u0219tin\u021bele acumulate \u0219i doar experien\u021ba direct\u0103 poate duce la integrarea unei informa\u021bii. Pe de alt\u0103 parte, fiecare experien\u021b\u0103 e potrivit\u0103 unei anumite persoane \u0219i nepotrivit\u0103 altora, astfel c\u0103 sf\u0103tuind copilul s\u0103 nu-\u0219i tr\u0103iasc\u0103 propriile experien\u021be de via\u021b\u0103, \u00eei lu\u0103m lec\u021biile necesare pentru integrarea mormanului de cuno\u0219tin\u021be cu care suntem \u00eendopa\u021bi din primii ani de via\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Una dintre cele mai nocive influen\u021be din partea familiei vine, cred eu, la capitolul vie\u021bii personale, fiindc\u0103 \u00een raport cu persoana de care copilul are o rela\u021bie, p\u0103rintele \u00eei va lua partea \u00een majoritatea situa\u021biilor. Astfel, o decep\u021bie \u00een dragoste are loc, \u00een opinia lor, pentru c\u0103 cel\u0103lalt e vinovat, pentru c\u0103 nu e a\u0219a cum s-ar dori s\u0103 fie, c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 fie altfel, f\u0103r\u0103 ca sentimentele s\u0103 fie luate prea mult \u00een calcul. Acest subiectivism e menit s\u0103 \u00eendep\u0103rteze o anumit\u0103 persoan\u0103 de lumea din jur pe care o consider\u0103 nedreapt\u0103, rea \u0219i intolerant\u0103, distan\u021b\u0103 ce cre\u0219te cu timpul, devenind tot mai mare. \u00cen cel mai fericit caz, o astfel de persoan\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i va g\u0103si un partener care s\u0103-i satisfac\u0103 toate nevoile pentru c\u0103, nu-i a\u0219a, merit\u0103 tot, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 dea nimic. Iar nefericirea lui cre\u0219te cu timpul, pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce cre\u0219te distan\u021ba dintre el \u0219i lumea din jur. Da, poate avea un statut, o familie dar bucuria vie\u021bii lipse\u0219te, fiindc\u0103 ea nu poate veni dec\u00e2t dintr-un schimb echitabil \u00eentre a primi \u0219i a da.<\/p>\n<p>Am avut marele noroc c\u0103 mi-am tr\u0103it dramele sentimentale pe cont propriu, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 \u00eenchid \u00eentr-un turn de filde\u0219 din care s\u0103 privesc lumea de sus. Am cobor\u00e2t \u00een mijlocul ei, plimb\u00e2ndu-m\u0103 adesea c\u00e2nd durerea interioar\u0103 devenea insuportabil\u0103, v\u0103z\u00e2nd c\u0103 \u0219i al\u021bii sufer\u0103 poate mai mult dec\u0103t mine, c\u0103 poate au o via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i mai grea. M-am mul\u021bumit cu ce-mi oferea via\u021ba pe moment, g\u0103sindu-mi uneori alinare \u00een bra\u021be str\u0103ine \u0219i am constatat c\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021bam c\u00e2te ceva din fiecare experien\u021b\u0103, c\u0103 oric\u00e2t de str\u0103ine erau respectivele bra\u021be, tot m\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103\u021bau ceva despre mine \u00eens\u0103mi. Am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat c\u0103 fericirea se construie\u0219te clip\u0103 de clip\u0103, d\u0103ruind \u00een primul r\u00e2nd, dac\u0103 doream s\u0103 primesc la r\u00e2ndul meu. D\u0103ruind mereu, pentru c\u0103 doar atunci te deschizi spre lume, iar lumea devine cu timpul propria lume \u00een care po\u021bi s\u0103 fii fericit. Am devenit parte din lume, iar lumea a devenit parte din mine.<\/p>\n<p>Nu \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103tor cred, cei care au s\u0103v\u00e2r\u0219it lucruri m\u0103re\u021be proveneau din familii defavorizate, astfel c\u0103 au fost l\u0103sa\u021bi s\u0103 viseze \u00een voie, iar visele lor s-au transformat \u00een realitate. Nu au avut de unde s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 sfaturi, s\u0103 li se spun\u0103 s\u0103 nu se av\u00e2nte prea mult ca s\u0103 nu e\u0219ueze, c\u0103 e mai bun\u0103 o variant\u0103 mai accesibil\u0103, care s\u0103 le ofere siguran\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n<p>Marele meu noroc e acela c\u0103 am avut \u0219ansa s\u0103-mi tr\u0103iesc visele \u00een lini\u0219te, \u00een cea mai mare lini\u0219te, \u021bin\u00e2ndu-le doar pentru mine, iar ele s-au transformat r\u00e2nd pe r\u00e2nd \u00een realitate. Am visat f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 l\u0103sa influen\u021bat\u0103 de limit\u0103rile celorlal\u021bi.<br \/>\nDestinul e al celor care viseaz\u0103 \u0219i care cred cu putere \u00een visele lor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2435,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[25],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2433","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-jurnal-virtual"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2433","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2433"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2433\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2535,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2433\/revisions\/2535"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2435"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2433"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2433"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2433"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}