{"id":2467,"date":"2023-01-24T18:03:20","date_gmt":"2023-01-24T18:03:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/?p=2467"},"modified":"2023-01-25T18:31:31","modified_gmt":"2023-01-25T18:31:31","slug":"iubirea-e-un-proces-de-devenire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/iubirea-e-un-proces-de-devenire\/","title":{"rendered":"Iubirea e un proces de devenire"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"x11i5rnm xat24cr x1mh8g0r x1vvkbs xdj266r x126k92a\"><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Zilele trecute \u00eemi spunea o prieten\u0103 c\u0103 a\u0219teapt\u0103 s\u0103-\u0219i \u00eent\u00e2lneasc\u0103 jum\u0103tatea al\u0103turi de care s\u0103-\u0219i construiasc\u0103 un viitor. O concep\u021bie destul de generalizat\u0103, din c\u00e2te am observat, dar foarte departe de realitate, fiindc\u0103 nu exist\u0103 o jum\u0103tate care s\u0103 ne completeze. Exist\u0103 persoane cu care rezon\u0103m \u0219i care ne atrag chiar de la \u00eenceput, dar ele nu sunt jum\u0103tatea noastr\u0103, ci persoane care ni se potrivesc. Fiin\u021be distincte, cu imperfec\u021biuni ca \u0219i noi, iar dac\u0103 pornim la drum cu concep\u021bia gre\u0219it\u0103 c\u0103 ele trebuie s\u0103 suplineasc\u0103 ceea ce ne lipse\u0219te nou\u0103, vom fi tot mai deziluziona\u021bi.<br \/>\n\ud83c\udf1f Din acest punct de vedere, filmele romantice creeaz\u0103 o realitate distorsionat\u0103, \u00een care, la \u00eenceputul rela\u021biei, \u00eendr\u0103gosti\u021bii se atrag, apoi se ceart\u0103, apoi se caut\u0103 \u0219i r\u0103m\u00e2n ferici\u021bi \u00eempreun\u0103. Niciun film nu prezint\u0103 rela\u021bia lor dup\u0103 aceast\u0103 perioad\u0103, fiindc\u0103 adev\u0103ratele \u00eencerc\u0103ri vin dup\u0103, iar dac\u0103 cuplul nu e suficient de sudat, nu rezist\u0103 \u00een timp. M\u0103 refer la cuplul veritabil, unit prin tr\u0103iri \u0219i sim\u021bire, nu care s\u0103 aib\u0103 la baz\u0103 scopuri materiale sau scopul cre\u0219terii copiilor, \u0219i care creeaz\u0103 aparen\u021ba la nivel social c\u0103 e un cuplu autentic.<br \/>\n\ud83c\udf1f\u00a0 Iubirea nu e o curgere lin\u0103, lipsit\u0103 de disensiuni \u0219i certuri. Dimpotriv\u0103, e un proces de devenire, ca \u0219i fiin\u021ba uman\u0103. E un dans de apropiere \u0219i distan\u021bare \u00eentre parteneri, de g\u0103sire a echilibrului \u00een cadrul cuplului, menit s\u0103-l sus\u021bin\u0103. Cu ceva vreme \u00een urm\u0103, \u00eemi spunea cineva c\u0103, dup\u0103 p\u0103rerea sa, o rela\u021bie armonioas\u0103 exist\u0103 de la \u00eenceput. Eu cred c\u0103 ea se formeaz\u0103 \u00een timp, a\u0219a cum spuneam \u00eenainte, pentru c\u0103, oric\u00e2t de mult\u0103 iubire exist\u0103 \u00eentre dou\u0103 persoane, apropierea dintre ele scoate la suprafa\u021b\u0103 cele mai profunde r\u0103ni, de natur\u0103 s\u0103 destabilizeze cuplul. Dac\u0103 r\u0103nile sunt ad\u00e2nci \u0219i genereaz\u0103 mecanisme de ap\u0103rare, convie\u021buirea dintre dou\u0103 suflete devine dificil\u0103.<br \/>\n\ud83c\udf1fE adev\u0103rat, iubirea vindec\u0103, \u00eens\u0103 doar \u00een timp, dac\u0103 exist\u0103 determinare \u0219i sus\u021binere reciproc\u0103. Acea compatibilitate dintre dou\u0103 persoane care se simte de la \u00eenceput poate cre\u0219te pe parcurs, dac\u0103 exist\u0103 dorin\u021b\u0103 \u00een acest sens. Dac\u0103 exist\u0103 respect reciproc. Dac\u0103 \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103 dansul atrac\u021biei \u0219i al respingerii, pentru c\u0103, altfel se transform\u0103 \u00eentr-o convie\u021buire anost\u0103, supus\u0103 rutinei zilnice. Dac\u0103 au idealuri comune \u00eempreun\u0103.<br \/>\n\ud83c\udf1fRealitatea prezent\u0103, \u00een care totul se gr\u0103be\u0219te, \u00een care sufletele nu au r\u0103gazul necesar s\u0103 se armonizeze nu pare propice leg\u0103turilor de durat\u0103 autentice ci, mai degrab\u0103, e propice parteneriatelor bazate pe interese, oricare ar fi acestea, de la dorin\u021ba de a avea pe cineva l\u00e2ng\u0103 noi, care s\u0103 se ne alunge singur\u0103tatea, p\u00e2n\u0103 la interese de natur\u0103 material\u0103 care, nesus\u021binute de sentimente reale, nu sunt \u00een m\u0103sur\u0103 s\u0103 duc\u0103 la evolu\u021bia cuplului.<br \/>\n\ud83c\udf1fS\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2i l\u00e2ng\u0103 cineva pe care \u00eel iube\u0219ti chiar dac\u0103 te r\u0103ne\u0219te, s\u0103 ai curajul s\u0103-i prive\u0219ti rana \u0219i s\u0103 \u0219tii c\u0103 ea doare \u0219i declan\u0219eaz\u0103 mecanisme de ap\u0103rare, s\u0103-i iei palmele \u00een palmele tale \u0219i s\u0103-i lini\u0219te\u0219ti temerile \u0219i angoasele reprezint\u0103 magia prin care iubirea \u00ee\u0219i \u00eempline\u0219te menirea. Magia de a-l vedea pe cel de l\u00e2ng\u0103 noi ca pe o fiin\u021b\u0103 nobil\u0103, supus\u0103 uneori gre\u0219elii \u0219i impulsurilor generate de frica de neiubire. \u2764\ufe0f<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/<br \/>\nhttps:\/\/www.edituradarclee.ro\/In-umbra-noptii<br \/>\nhttps:\/\/www.edituradarclee.ro\/Destinul-orelor-tarzii<br \/>\nhttps:\/\/www.edituradarclee.ro\/Printre-iluzii-si-forme<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Sursa foto: facebook<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2469,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[25],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2467","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-jurnal-virtual"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2467","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2467"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2467\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2526,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2467\/revisions\/2526"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2469"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2467"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2467"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dianalis.ro\/english\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2467"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}