We find ourselves looking at the other. He becomes the mirror we look in and often, we are not satisfied with what we see. We see fragments of ourselves, shards of memories, many of them painful. And, in order to get over the experience of meeting those memories more easily, we avoid them by changing the mirror because, we say, it is not what we want. We then look at ourselves in another mirror. That brings to the surface the same unbearable shards, for the too great pain they hide. And we change the mirror again, to find in another mirror the same shards we reject again.
\nToday society encourages diversity and seems to encourage new experiences that could make life more interesting. In fact, the most interesting life is the one we deeply build. Putting piece next to piece and regarding painful experiences from another perspective, creating a warm and comfortable reality for the soul, brings recognition and appreciation of one\u2019s worth.
\nNo matter how beautiful a person or an experience is, if we have not realized the beauty that comes primarily from the uniqueness of our own being, the beauty seen externally will not be able to bring us the fulfillment we long for. We will only see the imperfections that will disturb us, eventually making us move forward, in search of \u201csomething else\u201d that will satisfy us. But that “something else” will never satisfy us, because we are not satisfied with ourselves. We do not know the feeling of satisfaction within, so we cannot recognize it in others either. It is as if we see life only in red colors, without being able to notice the green, and then we say that it does not exist.
\nWe are pieces of a whole, fragments of which we do not see the meaning and beauty, because we fail to see the whole as an impressive puzzle, which we want to look at as a work of art. We are each perfect works of art, we just don\u2019t know how to put the pieces of the puzzle together to make sense of them, not finding their meaning. We see them as ugly and worthless. We live too much in the mind that fragments everything, dissects everything trying to find logic in everything, while life is beyond logic. It\u2019s like tearing a rose to pieces, petal by petal, thorn by thorn, trying to understand its beauty without being able to see it in its entirety, let alone smell it.
\nLife is lived in the heart. It is the heart that delicately takes each fragment of our puzzle, seeing its meaning and beauty, and remaking the whole through the breath of life that animates it. It is the heart that enjoys a simple penny or an entire fortune, and if does not know how to enjoy that insignificant penny, it will not know how to enjoy that fortune either, because joy is spontaneous and comes by feeling the pulse of life, not looking with the satisfaction of the conqueror on the new material acquisitions.
\nJoy does not come from the mind or logic. It is beyond them. This explains how there are people who enjoy everything without having any plausible reason from the perspective of the mind, and people who enjoy nothing even though they have every reason in the world to do so.
\nIn the desire to protect ourselves from our own pains hidden in the corners of the being, filing them away so that we cannot reach them, we put the heart aside, we embed it in patterns and blockages created by the mind, which dissociate us from the pain, alienating us and thereby removing the chance of healing. And the chance of our healing comes from those beings around us that we find unbearable, for the simple fact that they remind us of unresolved issues. If we looked into their eyes long enough to reach their heart, we would implicitly touch our own heart, finding ourselves through a magic created by the power that comes from sharing the pieces of pain with the other and remaking them naturally, the same way that all healing comes in the most natural way, without knowing the actual mechanism that caused it.
\nIn a society that urges us to frequently change things and implicitly people for the need to embrace something new, I urge you to look for the new inside, looking the one next to you in the eyes, in the deepest depths, looking at him as a human being and nothing more, without expectations and resentments, touching his heart and implicitly touching your own heart. Remaking your own being\u2019s puzzle. And when we have evolved enough and we feel that the one next to us has nothing more to teach us, we shall let him go with gratitude, aware of the fact that he was the mirror in which we discovered our own beauty.
\nUntil we have looked long enough into the other\u2019s eyes, feeling for him that liberating gratitude, any distance from him is premature, pushing us into the arms of other mirrors, thus resuming the lesson from the place where it was left unlearned.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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